“You are putting on too much weight for a pregnant woman”
“Moms are supposed to be on the healthier side. Are you sure your baby is okay?”
These are only a few examples of the unwelcomed comments pregnant women go through. While pregnancy is a time for a woman to feel the most pampered, nourished and cared for, judgmental comments can stress an expecting parent into believing that she is not doing enough or putting her baby at risk.
Just like some women are called out for putting a little too much weight when they are expecting a baby, there are others who also go through ‘skinny-shaming’ when they are pregnant. Former VJ and actress Teejay Sidhu is one of them.
Sidhu, who is expecting her third child with actor husband Karanvir Vohra is in her fifth month of pregnancy. While the mom-to-be is blissfully enjoying her last few months of pregnancy, she often finds people telling her that she isn’t really showing her pregnant belly, or isn’t putting on healthy weight, as other women do.
There are also a lot of people who have been leaving similar comments on her photos on social media, asking her to “eat well” and not take up dieting right now.
While the mother to be is doing her part to stay healthy, she has now opened up about the judgment and criticism she and many women like her go through on a daily basis.
Flaunting her growing baby bump, Teejay wrote, “People say I’m too skinny, that I should be heavier, especially since I’m expecting. (This is my 5 months pregnancy pic.) But for me, putting on has never been easy. And in the first trimester, I had terrible nausea, couldn’t eat anything”
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People say I’m too skinny, that I should be heavier, especially since I’m expecting. (This is my 5 months pregnancy pic.) But for me, putting on has never been easy. And in the first trimester, I had terrible nausea, couldn’t eat anything! (There was no ‘pregnancy glow!’) 😂🙈 Now I eat properly, but the weight only shows on my tummy. And I’m ok with that. 🙂 I’d advise any expecting Mom, whether you’re the thin/heavy, embrace your maternity body. Don’t overthink what you ‘should’ look like. As long as you are healthy, there is no ‘ideal’ weight. Every pregnancy body is different – love yours, just as it is. 🙏❤️ . Thank you @ammarzoofficial for the outfit – hardly anything fits properly anymore! 😄 Photo @anish_sonakshi.photography
The actress also said that there’s a lot of misconception about what an ideal pregnant woman is supposed to look like, and the lack of awareness could also cloud judgment and stress any parent into thinking they are not doing enough. For example, Teejay highlighted that both of her pregnancies never made her experience the “glow” people talk about and instead, made her lose appetite.
Nausea and loss of appetite is also something that royal parent and mother of three, Kate Middleton has talked about in the past, in detail. Teejay’s post further read:
“…And in the first trimester, I had terrible nausea, couldn’t eat anything! (There was no ‘pregnancy glow!’) 😂🙈 Now I eat properly, but the weight only shows on my tummy. And I’m ok with that. 🙂 I’d advise any expecting Mom, whether you’re the thin/heavy, embrace your maternity body. Don’t overthink what you ‘should’ look like. As long as you are healthy, there is no ‘ideal’ weight. Every pregnancy body is different – love yours, just as it is. ”
Teejay and Karanvir, who welcomed their twin daughters in 2016 announced their second pregnancy just recently (August 28) with an adorable set of maternity photos.
What is the ideal weight gain during pregnancy?
When a woman is pregnant, gaining some weight is essential to support the baby. While for most women, putting on weight isn’t a challenge, some can experience difficulties sticking to the ideal weight for their age, despite being nutritiously sufficient. Not putting on much weight can be because of many reasons- be it loss of appetite, extreme nausea, morning sickness, metabolic problems, chromosomal abnormalities or existing medical conditions. Some, strangely also risk losing the kilos!
The ideal weight gain for a pregnant woman varies, depending on her age, BMI (Body Mass Index) or pre-existing health factors. Anywhere between 11-16 kilos over the course of nine months is counted as healthy weight gain. In fact, science has also suggested that eating for two could be quite dangerous, and a mom-to-be really needs to take in additional calories during the last three-four months.
Weight gain also depends on pre-pregnancy weight- whether a woman is underweight, obese or overweight. It could also differ from one person to another, considering that not everyone is built the same way. While some put on weight quickly in the first trimester and “show”, some only gain weight in the later months of the pregnancy.
Nonetheless, maintaining a stable weight during all nine months is important. There’s no reason to fret as long as a woman eats healthy, swears off junk food and packs in nutrition which contains options from all food groups. It’s important to gain steady weight as a woman progresses with her pregnancy and it can differ for every person.
Here are some tips expecting mamas can follow to sustain a healthy pregnancy:
-Eat small, frequent meals a day
-Keep a check on your BMI, cholesterol and diabetes level
-Ward off stress
-Do not skip meals.
-Exercise well, but be cautious about not overstraining yourself.